Relationships: How To Get Over A Breakup

Breakups can be quite difficult to deal with, especially if you’ve been with your partner for quite sometime. It’s never a good feeling to have know that someone you once loved just isn’t into you anymore and no longer wants to be apart of your life. The pain of a heartache can sting but with time, it will get better. Once you get over the initial shock all will be well again and you can move finally move on with your life. Today we will be discussing ways on how to get over a breakup. You don’t have to go through this alone, we’ve all been there you just have to give it time.

It’s OK To Cry

When it comes to breakups, you experience all sorts of feelings. Anger, sadness, confusion, and sadness are all typical emotional responses to the situation. All you can think in your head at the time is how much you miss that person and what you could’ve done in the past to help resolve any issues between you two. Tears may start to form in your eyes as those thoughts start to form in your head and all you can do is think about the good times you had with your ex. Crying is a natural response to pain and sadness and it is perfectly ok to do so. Don’t let anyone tell you that you are weak for crying because you are not. You are hurting and in the process of grieving the loss of your relationship. Keep in mind everybody cries, there’s no need to be ashamed. The grieving process is going to take time, especially if this was someone you absolutely adored. Don’t allow those emotions to stay bottled up inside because eventually you’ll end up having one hell of a mental breakdown.

Find Yourself

You’re single now so guess what? That means free to do whatever the hell you want without having to answer to anyone! Right now is the perfect time to find yourself so have fun and do you! Before you hop into the next relationship, take this time to find yourself and learn to love you again. As Rupaul stated “if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anyone else?” You had a life before your relationship, so let’s get back to that! Partake in activities you used to enjoy, visit places you’ve never been, dabble in new hobbies, and explore all of what’s out there! Take your time, enjoy, and don’t rush to be in a relationship with anyone! Don’t cause damage to others because your are still not over your ex and the feelings are still there. The phrase “hurt people, hurt people” definitely has some truth to it. Take this time to heal before jumping into anything serious, because the pain of a guilty conscience due to the emotional damage that you inflicted on someone else stings work than the pain from a heartache. Let this sink in because while a breakup can be overcome within a short period of time, that guilt of that you have done can last a lifetime if not reversed.

Let Go

I know it may be easier said then done but sometimes we just have to let go and move on. If they do end up coming back and you decide to let them back into your life again, cool! Don’t wait up on this person though because this does not happen often. Keep your options open and see what all is out there. There are currently 7.8 billion people living out on this earth. Trust and believe when I say you will run into someone who treats you better and gives you the love that you deserve eventually. Let your ex go and let them go on about their lives! Why waste your time on someone who no longer values you or your time? Stop holding on to what was and looking forward to what will be in the future. I know you may be hurting right now, but in the long run holding on to that ex and all the memories you both created together will end up leading you to nothing but your own misery. Worry about yourself and take care of your mind. Remember, life is all about trial and error. Sometimes we have to get a fresh start, do things all over again, and with hope that we get a better outcome.

Get Your Sexy Back

So you just got out of a relationship, your self esteem is lowered and you feel you look the way you feel…MISERABLE. Every time you look into a mirror all you can think about is how much you let had let yourself go due to all that “relationship weight” that you had you gained. Now you have regrets about not keeping up with your figure and getting too comfortable in your relationship. You phone is laying right next to you and this is the part where you mess up at. Two mistakes are about to be made here:

  1. You never blocked them.
  2. You find yourself going through their social media looking to see if they are currently dating anyone.

You end up finding exactly what you were looking for and now your feelings are hurt. Your significant other has already moved on and now you find yourself looking crazy comparing yourself to their new boo.

Please don’t do this to yourself! It will only make this healing process even longer and you’ll be in a worse place mentally then you were before. With that being said, let’s discuss how we are going to fix this:

  1. Block them off of everything! Let’s delete numbers, messages, and definitely take them off of your social media. Whether or not you guys ended things on bad terms, they are your ex for a reason . Holding on to them in hopes that the two of you will eventually get back together will do nothing but tear you up inside. Let them go and move on with your life! You’ll find someone better soon, I promise! Just wait patiently and give it time.
  2. Let go of any insecurities you may have of yourself! You are not worthless and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! Those insecurities that you have will end up being your downfall if you carry that into your next relationship. Build that confidence back up and get yourself together. We all have flaws and if the next person has something negative to say about you then the problem lies within them and not you.
  3. Time to get cute! Let’s go shopping and get our nails done! You are S-I-N-G-LE baby and what we are not about to do is get back into the dating world looking a hot mess. I know this mess sound shallow but dammit it’s the truth! I can lie and tell you that looks aren’t everything but I’m not about to do that. Get yourself back out there in style and confidence. Whether you are looking for fun or seeking a relationship, it’s always good to give the next person the best impression of you.

Get your sexy back and the confident beast you once were! What you are going through right now is just a minor set back. Watch and see! Once you are over your ex and the feelings are no longer there, you will bounce back and find that you will be a better person than before.

Breakups happen to everyone at some point in life. Whether you were cheated on the love is no longer there, view it as a learning lesson. With every relationship comes a chance for self improvement. Do not allow that relationship you define you because once they’re gone, sad to say but that’s it. You will be left with nothing but a broken heart and an shell of yourself trying to figure out who you once were before the relationship. Be careful of who you give your heart to because not everyone is meant to be in your life. If it’s meant to be then things will progress naturally.

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28 Comments

  1. This is such a great post and one that I wish was around when I went through all my dating and breakups. I have not been single in 17 years but I remember how hard it is to get through a breakup. it is never easy to breakup but it is so important to pick yourself back up and get your sexy back. I love it!

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  2. Getting over a break up is always a hard time. I love your tips, as they can make our recovery time much easier! Great read! πŸ™‚

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  3. A breakup is the worst time of your life ever no matter if it is in between friendship are in love..but definitely it completely changes a person..Your all ideas and tips are much helpful and yeah totally agree with all of your points they are amazing especially that finding yourself..in any of relation we just forget ourself and a breakup is definitely beneficial for us…

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  4. It’s certainly not easy to cope with a breakup but sadly we’ll all go through it at least once in our lives. But I find getting up and living your best life (even if you are hurting inside) is the best policy. It shows the other party that you don’t need them to be a boss!

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