Technology has made communication in relationships difficult. We ghost when we can’t man up and tell our partner how we really feel, break ups are now done through text, and some of us really get satisfaction off of a hello or goodbye though text. What a time to be alive, right?! No wonder why nobody can keep a relationship nowadays! This generation seems to think it’s ok to hide behind their phone when it comes to their feelings. Who here misses the old school way of doing things? Like face to face interaction and the ability to speak your mind without a phone in your hand. Telling your partner how much your love them in person instead of using the stupid heart emoji to convey our feelings. Today, we are going to discuss the art of communication and why it is important to help maintain a healthy relationship. If this is something that you struggle with, then SIT DOWN and BE QUIET. LISTEN to what I have to say because I have some words of advice for you that may help you save your relationship or marriage. (see what I did there)
Ever heard of the phrase “if you got something to say, then say it to my face.”? Well that concept applies here! If you have any concerns to address, whether it pertains to your life or even something that is bothering you about your relationship, don’t be afraid to let your partner know. Being open and honest with your significant other is the key to a lasting relationship. If you can’t trust your partner with your business, then why be with them in the first place? Never be afraid to open your mouth and express how you really feel. There are no such things as secrets in relationships. Let me say that again for the folks in the back because I don’t think y’all heard me:
DON’T DO IT!
Keep on holding holding back from your partner and I GUARANTEE this thing that ya’ll got going on won’t go ANYWHERE. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Nobody has time for guessing games and if you can’t be upfront about your feelings, then you are not mature enough to be in a relationship!
Close your mouth and open up your ears! If your partner is trying to communicate something with you then SHUT UP, let them speak their mind, and respond if appropriate. While it is not necessarily your job to play therapist for your partner, at least have the decency to be there for them and listen to what they have to say. In order to effectively communicate with each other, one must actively listen while the other voices their concerns. Pay close attention to your partners wants, needs, and aspirations. Not being able to provide to listening ear not only hurts them; I can assure you it will hurt your relationship as well. Be sensitive to your partners needs and stop making everything about you!
There is no such thing as a “dumb” want, need, or concept in a relationship. Wait, let me rephrase that. Even if what your partner has to say really IS what you may consider dumb then dammit you suck it up, listen, and fake it till you make it if you have to! Stop belittling your partner just because their ideas may seem insignificant to you. While you two may be different people with different mindsets, you have to remember that you need to ALWAYS be there for your partner through thick and thin. I don’t care how dumb you think it is! What may seem big to them may seem small to you, but you absolutely cannot let them know that! Be supportive of their dreams and show them that you actually give a damn. I promise you, if you continue dismiss every thought, concept, idea, etc. of your partner eventually they will leave your ass and you will be stuck there looking stupid, wondering went wrong. At that point, I don’t have any words of advice to save you. Remember, your words and actions can cut deep like a knife to the skin. Like they used to say back in the day, if you don’t have anything nice then don’t say it at all. If you you want this thing to last, keep your shitty comments to yourself and let your partner be great! Can’t do it? Let’s be real, there are millions of people on this earth and somebody else surely will!
What is something that you feel that you can improve on in your relationship? Feel free to leave a comment below!